Wisdom Psychology 101 Lessons from the Universe:
When derogatory statements or negative projections/ intentions are sent towards another person, it’s actually a reflection of oneself and a defense mechanism that has nothing to do with the other person. The behavior is a culmination of feelings and issues that the person is trying to cope with. The lashing out defense mechanism is announcing to others that there are unresolved issues in their life and they seek to place their blame elsewhere rather than looking from within and taking responsibility for their feelings.
While they are many situations that evoke anger, really looking from within to see where the anger is coming from and what the anger is trying to tell you can motivate you to take positive affirmative action or see what kind of boundary may need to be set. Self-love and self-compassion are the antidote to ill will and as by product compassion will radiate to others. By sending negative energy or negative projections and by misplacing blame on others, you are saying to the universe to send you more of this. In Buddhism, this is known as the Wheel of Sharp Weapons. Suffering and the vast range of emotions are a component of life, it is how one handles that suffering that will generate a life of either greater grace, wellbeing, and peace or further harm. What kind of loving conscious action are willing to take for yourself today to generate more peace and wellness in your life?